Life after marriage
Marriage is a sacred bond of two
souls. It is a sacred understanding between them. It is again, a selfless union
of two mental entity. It is a debt of previous birth. It is a mindset to adjust
according to situation with challenge. Here, challenge means, challenge to face
every odd and obstacles of life along with good days. Now, let us see where and
whom to marry. According to psychologists and scientists, marriage should not
be between two blood relations because it causes both physical and mental disorder.
Hence, distant marriage is preferably advisable because, this kind of marriage
is comparatively more fruitful. That is why, in ancient times, ‘Varnashankara’
marriage was preferred too. In Varnashankara marriage, the off springs become
more intelligent. We see several examples of Varnashankara marriage in ancient
time.
Now let us examine how one can
smoothen his or her married life. Certain amount of mental and physical
preparation is highly essential before marriage, because, without preparation,
one cannot face situations completely new to life. It is a thrilling experience
for both the bride and the groom.
After marriage,
one should be very careful to handle situations and should give attention to
the following factors -
1. One
should develop caring attitude for all the members of the family. Here family
refers to both the families of the bride and the groom. To be more precise,
both of them should see the welfare of their respective kith and kin. Both of
them should realize that, the God has created them for each other and hence,
they should live for each other. At the same time, both of them live for others
too. They should develop convincing nature in them that minimizes
misunderstanding. In other words, we call it ‘Adaptability’.
Here, one should note that, ‘Adaptability’
leads to leadership quality in man and leadership quality helps a person to
organize small family matter smoothly. Leadership quality initiates tolerant
capacity in man. Hence, after marriage one should tolerate others with patience
and pleasing attitude and co-operative tendency. While leading a family, one
should ignore small family matters that disrupts the calm family atmosphere.
2. After
marriage, one should be away from inertia and must accept all changes that come
on his way. Both wife and husband should treat each other from the psychological
point of view. That means psychotherapy is more important than any other
therapy. Both of them should talk logically. Consequently, it will reduce chaos
and confusion in family matters. Before giving any opinion in family matters, one
should have a rethought to the respective issues. While participating in the
family discussion, one should accept everything very lightly and should behave
softly, taking into consideration others emotions.
3. One
should give top priority to the welfare of family matters. Moreover, one must
develop a spiritual environment in family that has a positive impact on
everyone. One must shoulder responsibility without hesitation while in and outside
the family. One must develop work culture attitude that strengthens the family
life. One must know all the members of the family must take each other’s
suggestion and advice whenever required. Both wife and husband should have
equal share in family matters. Wife must consider husband’s advice, if
logical. However, husbands should not
ignore wife’s right advice too. Both of them should develop child caring attitude,
since the child can learn it in future. While winning others emotions, one
should not ignore self too. It is vital because, self-caring attitude can only
bring success in life after marriage.
Hence, there is
a saying -
Agar kisiko jitna chahta,
pehele khud ko jitna padta…!!
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