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WHY DOES ANGER COME IN THE HUMAN? 

The Bhagavata Geeta says-

“DHYAYATO VISHAYANPUMSAH SAMGASTHESHOOPAYAYATE;

SAMGATSANJAYATE KAMAH KAMATKRODHOBHIJAYATE”

The human revolves rounds desire. He/she cannot go above desire unless he/she is a great soul like- BUDHA or JAINA etc. Here, expectations are many. One cannot fulfil them always. Hence, when he/she fails to fulfil his/her desires or expectations anger comes in him/her.

Desires are like horses. Hence, one must control them as that of the horses. Now, let's see, what do we understand y desire? Desires are of different kinds; but, broadly we can divide them into two categories, such as- physical desire and emotional desire.

All kinds of physical comforts come under physical desire it is basically material based. We can experience it through different materials needed to make our life comfortable. Those are television, radio, air-conditioner etc. But, emotional desire is feeling based or psychology-based. This kind of desire consists of love, relation, kindness etc. We need it to create a psychological bond irrespective of materials needed for physical comfort. Nevertheless, in both the cases, the human experiences desire, which we call expectation. Hence, when a human falls in either of the cases, anger generates in him/her.

There is a saying- to give advice to others is a sin. Hence, anger comes to teenagers, when we advise them or suggest them for something, which goes against their sweet will. But, they cannot realise it. The Geeta says-

“YATTADAGRE VISHAMIVA PARINAMEMRUTOPAMAM;

TATSUKHAM SATTWIKAM PROKTAMATMABUDDHIPRASADAJAM”

Now, let's see, how previous birth plays a great role in creating anger in a human. It is said, the enmity between two persons is caused in the present time considering the debt of one’s previous birth. A person takes birth repeatedly on the earth to repay the debt of his previous birth- may be good or bad. When he/she repays the good things he/she becomes the “SATWIKA”; when he/she repays the bad things he/she is the “TAMASIKA”.

Anger comes to both old and young due to generation gap too. Hence, the old should understand the young psychology to bridge the gap that causes anger and vice-versa. We should behave children softly while controlling anger. We should give different examples to them while controlling their anger. We must consider them as our junior friends. Besides that, we must infuse spiritual values in them to bridge the gap between them and us. Spiritual value enhances patience in human. Prayer and meditation enhance our patience. Hence, the role of prayer and meditation is indispensable to control one’s anger. One’s temper must be within the control that causes anger too; because, if one loses his/her temper he/she becomes angry, we lose temper very often due to self-ego. We call it “ATMAABHIMANA”. One should be determined to control anger; because the power of determination helps to increase patience in a human. There is a saying-

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Self-assessment too helps to control anger. One should be above victory and defeat while controlling anger. Children should not be unnecessarily opposed that causes anger in them.